Disappointment

Decca has been writing every day since last October on the Scooby Doo Fanon Wiki. Scooby Doo Fanon is a place for Scooby Doo fans to create their own shows. movies, or stories using the Scooby Doo characters and world they inhabit. He loves working on his stories and sharing them with everyone, and he is one of the top contributors on the site.

Looking over at his profile page I see that he has made 1,902 edits since he joined. He has earned 1,640 achievement points, and he has amassed a wonderful collection of badges, which means a good deal to him.  The latest badge he was working on was to be a contributor every day for 200 days, and after that he was going to try to contribute every day for a year.

He was so close to earning the 200 day badge when something terrible happened, at least it seemed that way to him. He completely forgot about the Scooby Doo Fanon Wiki for a day. I didn’t realize it at all because I am very hands-off in this area.  It is his project, not mine, and I allow him the time he needs to work on it, but I am not involved with it at all, so I had no idea he had missed a day. He didn’t realize it either until a few days later when he went to check on his badges. That was when he noticed his counter toward the 200 day badge had reset. He was back at the beginning.

Decca is very sensitive, and he has trouble talking about anything that upsets him. He didn’t come to me and tell me he was sad. I found him all alone in the living room sitting on the couch. I would have never known anything was wrong except for the tears silently rolling down his cheeks.  I sat down beside him and after a few minutes he finally was able to tell me what happened. He had missed a day, he had to start all over, he was mad at himself, and he was disappointed. He was extremely disappointed.

I sat with him and talked it over for a little while. There was nothing that could be done I told him, and he agreed. I then said he had two choices, he could either get right back at it, and before he knew it he would be back where he was at, or he could just not worry about the badges anymore. Maybe it would be liberating to not have to log-on every day and do an edit. He thought about it for a while, and he decided that he wasn’t going to worry about it anymore. Summer is coming up, and he doesn’t want to work on his fanon every day. I agreed with him, and within a few minutes he was back to his happy self. He got over his disappointment fairly quickly.

This whole episode has taught Decca that goals won’t always be met, achievements won’t always be had, and sometimes we end up disappointing ourselves. However good things can come from disappointment. It forces one to start a new path, one that wasn’t planned before.

Decca is a writer and a creator. He always has to be doing something, and now it seems his disappointment has allowed him to branch out. He started a new wiki this week, a Johnny Dixon wiki. He is very excited about it! He also started a new animated series over on Scratch. He’s also back on the Scooby wiki working on his stories. He seems to be spending less time at it though, and I think that may be a good thing. His disappointment has led him to new adventures, and for that I am thankful.

 

2 thoughts on “Disappointment

  1. A life lesson learned. It is sad to see your kids experience it but all part of growing emotionally. You did great leading him get through it.

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