High School Year 1

It's about starting over andcreating something better.

The youngest one is starting his high school years this year. Because he is my youngest, and I have been through this twice before, I feel so much more sure of my decisions this time around. And I feel so much more prepared.

The boy is going to be doing a mix of online classes, classes at home, and activities in the community. He has a full schedule but I do feel that is exactly what he needs. Here is what we have planned:

English – Blue Tent Honors English 1

Math – Key to Algebra

Science – High School Chemistry in the Kitchen

Social Studies – AP Human Geography

Foreign Language –  Latin 1 from the Well Trained Mind Academy

Art – The Drawing Course Level 1 and 2 

Music – Introduction to Music Theory from the Well Trained Mind Academy

English, Latin, Music Theory, and Drawing are online classes that are with a live teacher. Math, Science, and AP Human Geography are classes we will do at home. The AP Human Geography is a course I designed and had approved by the College Board, so I will be able to list it as an AP course on his transcript.

In addition to his formal classes, the boy will be taking drum lessons, participating in band, and taking private music production lessons.

I wanted to get a head start on documenting the boy’s high school years so I have already created his transcripts (without the grades) for his first year. This is a much easier process this time around. He also started The Coalition App so that he may place items in his locker over the next four years. As a creative student, having a virtual place to keep work samples, whether it be a drawing, a music piece, an essay sample, or a film he made, is a bonus. He will be able to store the items and submit them if necessary when he applies to college.

So that is his year in a nutshell. I’ll try to update as the year  progresses especially if there are any changes. Until then…

School Choice Week – Homeschooling as a Choice for the Twice-Exceptional Student

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When I was a child there was not too many choices available to my parents when it came to my education. There was a Catholic private school in town, but my parents never even thought about sending me there. Instead they sent me to public school just as their parents sent them. And there was no hesitation or debate about whether this was a good match. They simply did not have much choice in the matter and that was that.

These days parents have so many choices in regards to just about everything, and though this can feel overwhelming at times, in the area of education it is a blessing. Children  and teens have such unique needs that finding the best environment to meet their needs is half the battle when it comes to their education. And this is especially true when you are thinking about your twice-exceptional child. Because these kids have struggles and disabilities they need to be in an environment that is equipped to deal with these issues. And because they are also gifted, these students need to be in an environment that will allow their passions and talents to soar.

When it came time for me to start thinking about my own children and their education I knew I wanted something different for them than what I had. I struggled in school. I had anxiety and some learning struggles that were never addressed while at the same time I felt bored over and over again with what we were learning. My education left much to be desired and I did not want my kids to have those same feelings.

I am lucky that I discovered homeschooling before the kids started school. When I first heard about homeschooling I had no idea what exactly it would entail or if it was something I could do, but I knew I wanted to try. And this was at a time when the internet was starting to take off so I was able to find the resources I needed while also connecting with other homeschooling parents.  This was 18 years ago and though there was not as much resources available as there is today I knew this was the right choice for my kids. They soared with homeschooling and had such a joy for learning that I never had. It was wonderful to see.

If you are struggling with finding a good choice for your 2E student you may want to consider homeschooling. There are many reasons this path is a solid choice for your child, and I want to take a moment to go over them in case it may help someone considering this option.

  1. No one knows your child as well as you do. You have been raising them from day one and by know you know their strengths and weaknesses. This knowledge will help you every step of the way in their education.
  2. One-on-one instruction. Gifted and twice-exceptional children work best one-on-one and in a homeschool environment this is possible. Even if you are homeschooling more than one child you will have time everyday to work individually with each child. If you have a house full of young children, as I once did, you may not have a great deal of time to devote to each child, but even little moments of one-on-one time throughout the day go a long way.
  3. Less time needed for actual seat work, more time for passions and therapies – At a traditional school much time is wasted throughout the day because there are so many children in a class. At home actual school work can get finished quite quickly especially while your children are on the younger side. This leaves more time for a child to explore their passions whatever they be. It also allows for you to schedule in any therapies that may be needed.
  4. Homeschooling choices abound! – Just as you chose to homeschool, you also get to choose your method of homeschooling. There are so many choices and each method, from unschooling to classical schooling and everything in between, have both positives and negatives. With homeschooling you can try each method out until you find the one that is right for your child and yourself. In school the child must follow whatever method the school follows. At home this is not the case. If you don’t know what approach might be best for you here is a quiz you can take.
  5. Curriculum choices – Just as there are choices in homeschooling approaches, there are choices in the curriculum you use (if you choose to use a curriculum). When I first started out there was not as many choices but today, with the explosion of the homeschool market, there is so much out there. If you decide on a math curriculum and your child struggles with it, do more research and pick up a different program. This is a great benefit to the 2E learner as often one curriculum may not work but another does. If you don’t know where to start the Well Trained Mind forums are a wonderful place to get information on all that is out there. One word of caution – Sometimes as homeschooling parents we are tempted to hop from curriculum to curriculum trying to find that perfect match for our child. There is no perfect option and jumping around too much can have a negative impact on your child’s schooling. If you find something that is working fairly well my advice is to stick with it.
  6. Pacing, it’s your call – In homeschooling there is no set timeframe for work to be completed and this is great for 2E kids. If your student understands and is excited by a topic they can work through it as fast as they want so as not to become bored. On the flip side, if your student is struggling with a concept or subject they can spend as much time as needed on this topic. For instance my youngest son is very asynchronous in his schooling. For language arts he needs something that is at a high level and that is engaging. With math though, he struggles greatly. We have been working through pre-algebra for a long time. Seriously it’s been almost two years. And at times, as a parent and educator, this has been frustrating, but at the same time it is what he needs. And by putting on the brakes and pausing for review, he has not felt like he is a failure (which I am sure he would have felt in a traditional school setting) and he has been given the time to understand what he needs to know. Just recently he has made big leaps and I can see he will be ready for algebra in the fall. I am thankful that I have been able to set the pace in his schooling. It has been one of the biggest benefits for my asynchronous learner.
  7. Cheaper than private school  –  Homeschooling is a wonderful model for asynchronous learners and although a private school may be able to provide a solid education to these students, homeschooling is much more affordable. This is a real benefit to those who are on a tight budget. You truly do not need to spend thousands of dollars on your child’s education to get results.
  8. Proven record – Homeschooling works. It has been around long enough that we can see the benefits. Homeschool kids are engaged, both in their school work and often in their communities. They are self-starters and out-of-the-box thinkers. Homeschoolers are sought after by colleges and often thrive when they get there. If you have the time to devote to homeschooling you will see results.

So if your 2E/gifted child is struggling in a traditional school setting and you are researching choices, I would highly suggest that you look into homeschooling. Likewise if you have young children and are just beginning to think about their schooling I would also recommend homeschooling. It is a great choice for many and one that should be considered by all parents of 2E kids.


If you are homeschooling or will soon be homeschooling a 2E or gifted child feel free to join AHA! on Facebook, a group supporting homeschooling parents of asynchronous learners.

Homeschooling the Twice-Exceptional Student – There Will Be Gaps and That’s OK

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This young man is incredibly creative. He makes movies, writes stories, animates, composes, records original songs, and works on other creative endeavors all day long. He is never idle, never bored. My son works from the moment he wakes up, which is usually before 7:00, and stays busy until around 10:00 at night when he finally tires out and heads to bed. Sleep usually comes an hour later when his mind finally calms down.

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Most days I am in awe of all he does. It really is amazing. But it is also incredibly frustrating, and at times, overwhelming and tiring to watch. Traditional school work falls to the way side often, and when he can settle long enough to work on academics, it usually doesn’t go the way I imagine. Math is an exercise in frustration, reading hurts his head, and handwriting practice is painful. Science can be fun, history is mostly boring, but analyzing literature is a favorite. He usually has the energy to concentrate on academics for no more than 2 to 3 hours a day, a few days a week.

This is what I am working with, and I can never forget it as I homeschool him. My son is not going to school in any sort of traditional matter, and I have to remind myself of that often. He is a twice-exceptional student, and things are different for twice-exceptional kids. Their paths look different from other students. Their days look different.

Parents who are homeschooling 2E children and teens need to remind themselves of this often otherwise they may end up feeling like they are failing their children. There will be areas where their student may be behind (for my son it is math) and other areas where they have no interest at all. There will be gaps along the way and as homeschool parents we have to learn to let these gaps go because there will be other areas where they are working so enthusiastically, so passionately, that they do not have time for it all.

I have to remind myself that what my son is doing is significant (even with the gaps) and that he will find his own way. His path may be different and atypical but it is also unique and meaningful. He is creative and productive and confident and happy. And in the end isn’t that all that matters?

————————————————————————–Are you homeschooling a twice-exceptional or gifted homeschooler? Are you looking for support? If so please join our new Facebook group for 2E homeschooling parents here and follow our Facebook page here. Thank you!

Twice Exceptional Students and Homeschooling

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Someone asked me the other day about home schooling a 2E kid. What does it look like, how do your days flow, what kind of work does your child do? I shared with them what homeschooling looks like at my house with my youngest, and I thought I would share here too for anyone wanting to learn more about homeschooling these very unique kids.

First off, let me say that this is only one view of homeschooling the twice exceptional. There are many other ways to do it, and what works for one family will not always work for another. Also children and teenagers who are identified as twice exceptional vary in so many ways and struggle with different disabilities that techniques and routines that I use may not work for other families. Having said that I will share what works for us. At our house the key to homeschooling a 2E kid is flexibility, compassion, following passions (whatever they may be), and having support.

Flexibility – Flexibility is key to a smooth homeschooling journey for a 2E student. You need to be flexible in your routine, flexible with your curriculum choices, and flexible with your approach. What works one year may not work the next. What is scheduled in a curriculum may not be the schedule you follow. What you have planned for the day may not be what you get done. If you start your journey with flexibility in mind then you are able to bend easier without getting frustrated and overwhelmed. Changing your expectations goes hand in hand with this. Don’t expect school to look like the perfect vision you have in your mind, don’t expect it to look like other homeschooler’s school, and don’t expect it to look like a sibling’s school. It will be different than others, different from day to day, different than what is planned. And that is ok, and it is normal when schooling a twice-exceptional student. In our homeschool we may go weeks with the same schedule, and then hit a brick wall and need to take a break and reassess. Flexibility is the key to getting through times like this.

Compassion – Being a twice exceptional student can be hard. Some subjects come so easy to them, while other subjects are a constant struggle in frustration. These students may be working on work that is many years ahead of them and then they may struggle with work that is many years below them. My student’s strengths lie in writing, art, animation, and game making. He struggles with math. It is painful for him (and me!) to work through a math lesson that we have covered many times before, but that he still struggles with.  Compassion is the key to dealing with this frustration, this struggle. And compassion should be shown not just to the student, but towards yourself.

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Italian Scooby Doo books – One of my son’s passions that have lead to many interesting educational activities.

Passions – Twice exceptional children are going to have passions, and most of these kids will feel very strongly about what it is they love. I have found that discovering your student’s interests and supporting these pursuits should be an important part of your homeschool. While you may feel drawn to the idea of your homeschool reflecting a traditional school in the subjects you need to teach and the skills your student needs to learn, it would probably be helpful if you leave that idea behind. Instead balance the skills and subjects that you believe are essential to your child’s education with the areas your child wants to study. For 2E kids passions often lead to work that is very meaningful and spending time on these pursuits will be rewarding to both of you. Our days consist of an hour or so of essential school work that I want to get done, and the rest of the time is his own in which he works on what he feels is important. In our house that means writing for hours a day, working on animation projects, reading books of his choice. For other kids it means working on math for hours a day or on a specific science project. Passions will vary from student to student but having time for them will benefit them all.

Support – Homeschool a 2E kid is very rewarding, but it is also frustrating and demanding at times. Give yourself a pat on the back, on hard days allow yourself to put the work away and call it a day, and if you are ever feeling overwhelmed talk to friends, call on a relative, lean on a support group (whether in person or online). There will be days, weeks, or months were you struggle and you need some help. If you are really struggling don’t be afraid to see a professional whether it be your pediatrician, your neuropsych, or another person that can give you advice and/or a fresh perspective. Also if you think your child may have a learning disability please have them professionally assessed. Many times people in the homeschooling community can be weary of getting a professional opinion, but it really is helpful to have. Ask around the homeschool community if you want someone who is familiar with homeschooling and supports that choice, as it can make a difference. Either way, arm yourself with a support group for yourself and for your child.

Where to find help/support online –

The Well Trained Mind forums has a Learning Challenges board that is a great community of parents that support one another in regards to many issues facing 2E kids. I highly recommend starting there if you need some advice.

Gifted Homeschoolers Forum has a Twice-Exceptional section that is very helpful.

SEA Homeschoolers has many parents with 2E kids if you are looking for a general homeschooling support group.

Also I found a wonderful gifted/2E support group in my area with meetups and park days through Meetup. It was really great to meet families in person that struggled with some of the same issues, and it was wonderful to meet friends that understood my kids. I highly suggest looking for a group in your area, and if there is not one, consider starting your own.